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9:12 pm - 11/10/2012

When do Japanese people Have Their First Kiss?

Japanese men aren’t known for being the most romantically aggressive bunch. Many young Japanese women lament over having to take the lead just to get out of the dugout and onto first base.

If Japanese guys are so reluctant to get touchy-feely, you’ve got to wonder: at what age do Japanese people have their first kiss?

Japanese mobile company NTT Docomo conducted an online poll that asked respondents to divulge when they first closed their eyes and puckered up. The poll was conducted during the two weeks of September 6-19 and received 36,818 entries.

Before we looks at the results, it’s important to realize that dating and kissing as we know it in the Western world is still something relatively new to Japan, a country where arranged marriages still exist and, until recently, kissing was something traditionally reserved for the bedroom. While Japanese women may be ready to adopt the kiss as a form of showing affection, their male counterparts might just need some time to adjust.

■  When did you have your first kiss? (36,818 votes total)

1. High school (9878 votes)
2. Never kissed (6119 votes)
3. Middle school (6021 votes)
4. After entering workforce and before 31 (5771 votes)
5. College (4262 votes)
6. Preschool/Kindergarten (2423 votes)
7. Elementary school (2029 votes)
8. After 31 (331 votes)

Putting together high school, middle school, college, preschool/kindergarten and elementary school, a little over 60% of respondents had their first kiss by their early 20s. 

On the other hand, some 6000 respondents didn’t have their first kiss until after they entered the workforce, and another 6000 or so have never kissed at all. Perhaps these people just place more value on their first kiss than others. But looking at the growing ranks of frustrated Japanese women, general apathy towards romantic relationships seems the more likely suspect.

Source: goo rankings &

jeugd1 11th-Nov-2012 06:27 am (UTC)
The things you find on youtube and tell me why this was recommended on the side while I was watching vids of foreigners in Japan during the earthquake?

fukkthedumbshyt 11th-Nov-2012 06:42 am (UTC)
I liked this video. I saw it a couple months ago.
mrstaguchi100 11th-Nov-2012 07:38 am (UTC)
there are a couple nice-looking ones on this vid, to my surprise. the dude with the blue hoodie, necklance and white t-shirt looks really sweet...

asth77 11th-Nov-2012 09:15 am (UTC)
so cute!
inachan89 11th-Nov-2012 12:19 pm (UTC)
the red haired guy looks adorable with that "bad boy" image XD
tokyo_yume 11th-Nov-2012 04:43 pm (UTC)
First, your icon made me crack up. Maybe not a whole lot of people will get it. LOL.

Then, it took me almost a whole 30 seconds to realize that this was shot at my old Uni, Nagoya University of Foreign Studies. I recognize sharp-nose guy, and red-hair guy always hangs out in the smoking area like I used to. XD
asth77 12th-Nov-2012 09:59 am (UTC)
were they nice? :p
bleed_peroxide 11th-Nov-2012 11:46 pm (UTC)
I like the guy with the blue hoodie. He seems like such a sweetheart.
december_clouds 13th-Nov-2012 08:50 am (UTC)
That was fantastic.
inachan89 11th-Nov-2012 12:22 pm (UTC)
I had my first in kindergarten,we hid in a corner and did it,i still remember it lol
kyokutan 11th-Nov-2012 01:23 pm (UTC)
This is just my opinion, but I don't think a kiss in kindergarten counts as a first kiss...
tokyo_yume 11th-Nov-2012 04:26 pm (UTC)
Not surprised in the least, though I would like to know what age range was polled here. Next question - when did they lose their virginity? :P
pfirsichtrinker 11th-Nov-2012 06:41 pm (UTC)
always highly amused about these rankings.
I seem to only get to know the measly 10% of japanese men who are strangely aggressive O__ô
Oh the wonders of this world
annhh 11th-Nov-2012 10:27 pm (UTC)
Over half have their first kiss after 20.. I guess they don't have parties or get-togethers in school. The average age would be convenient to know as some answers sound old and some very young.

"general apathy towards romantic relationships seems the more likely suspect."

not only in Asia. (tho it's women who pursue careers over men)
chochajin 12th-Nov-2012 02:03 am (UTC)
I'm not surprised at all. Actually I thought there would be more who have never been kissed yet.
Ever since I moved to Japan I have not received or given a kiss either.
I moved to Japan 5 years ago. I was already 27 by that time. Most Japanese guys are already married around that age. The ones that are not, are for a reason ... if you get what I mean ...
And all the foreign guys are either totally "§%&§"$$" or are only after Japanese girls.

If you live in the Japanese countryside like me it's even worse!

Sad, sad truth.

Well, I didn't come to Japan for kisses, so I don't mind, but I can totally see WHY the result is like shown above! ^^
go_chan2011 12th-Nov-2012 10:23 pm (UTC)
I can't believe 331 pple from this poll had their first kiss after 31. Sex it's ok but first kiss? That's like soooooooooooooo sad.

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