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4:12 pm - 03/03/2012

Update on Nakajima Tomoko's Situation

Much like the last article, this one will not have a source because it’s a compilation of the past week’s articles about her.

Nakajima Tomoko, who is still yet to be seen in public, is alleged to be completely broke. So broke that she attempted to have someone try to sell her expensive hot pink French designer sofa to a recycle shop. Unfortunately, the shop staff told the person that they cannot buy it unless the actual owner shows up. Then, her sofa showed up on Yahoo! Auctions only to be taken down hours later.

Her partner, Matsushima Nahomi, finally spoke out about her situation. She said that if she could, she would chase down the psychic and beat her silly. But right now, she has to think about what is best for Nakajima’s psychological state so she can only show her concerns. She also said that she cannot forgive the psychic for what she has done to her partner. But people have also said that Nakajima’s current state can be partly attributed to her jealousy towards Matsushima’s marital bliss.

There are also news that Nakajima’s dad finally got to talk to his daughter, and might’ve brought her out of her self-imposed prison. Although the psychic and her relatives’ location are unknown. Rumors also have it that Nakajima’s bank account has been wiped out. The woman currently has 0yen to her name.

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mellastella 4th-Mar-2012 12:06 am (UTC)

Seriously, what is with her family (I use that broadly here to mean Matsushima, too)? Why didn't they beat the door and risk her away from the psychotic psychic (pun intended)? It ticks me off that no one's actually done anything to help her.

Edited at 2012-03-04 12:06 am (UTC)
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dorkylifestyle 4th-Mar-2012 12:14 am (UTC)
I don't know what are they waiting for... seriously!
a_cheshire_grin 4th-Mar-2012 09:52 am (UTC)
This so much!!!
scubajr 4th-Mar-2012 01:04 am (UTC)
This! It seems to me like her friends and family aren't really trying too hard to help Nakajima.
findmefate 4th-Mar-2012 12:21 am (UTC)
I don't really want to condone the behavior of the people around her, you know, not really doing anything, but people should understand that mental illness can be difficult to deal with even for those NOT suffering from it. When your friend cracks or your sister, your parent, whoever, a lot of people don't even know WHAT to do. They might WANT to do something but they have NO IDEA how to anything for that person.

There are a lot of things that can make people that are ill worse, and I mean a lot worse, for all you know, forcing the psychic out or confronting Nakajima could put a huge stress on her, she might feel like people have taken away her only ally. Even the genuine concern of family and friends can be of little use because of the state of mind the other person is in, and any help you try to offer can be denied out right, they might even end up on the end of accusations and etc.

Who knows what the Psychic has done to further worsen Nakajima's mental condition, and the best course of action is to cautiously initiate contact and hope Nakajima will be open for conversation which will open up the path to help her and lead her back home and away from that quack...

Really, a lot of of her troubles could be resulting from Shame as well, which is a terribly strong emotion which can initiate all sorts of hate toward the people in your life. Her seeking out a psychic says says as much that she was desperate and seeking out someone with answers. She easily believed someone that likely gave her answers that she either wanted to hear or "confirmed" her worst fears.

Edited at 2012-03-04 12:23 am (UTC)
kame_94 4th-Mar-2012 12:30 am (UTC)
tl;dr but I skimmed your comment, and I agree.
Mental illness brought on by stress, heartbreak, manipulation, etc is really hard to confront within legal boundaries. Especially if there's a possibility the person may turn suicidal or hurt someone else. The confrontation may actually harm her more than help her.
findmefate 4th-Mar-2012 12:33 am (UTC)
I realized after i posted it was the tl;dr sort. I only hope everyone can be patient with her, because where she's at is a serious, and what Nakajima needs is understanding and for people not to be rash with her. Persistence and Persuasion is the way. They must not give up.
kame_94 4th-Mar-2012 12:51 am (UTC)
I have a feeling now that she may be broke, the psychic may back off or something. I can only hope..
rosemaine 4th-Mar-2012 05:18 am (UTC)
+1, some need to understand that situation like this is very difficult for most people, easier said than done.
rim1789 4th-Mar-2012 09:24 am (UTC)
THANK YOU OMG! I came exactly to say that. People are judiging so fast without taking the time to consier how tricky and dangerous this situation is for also families and friends of people in that situation. If they act too much it might be really really dangerous for Nakajima

Edited at 2012-03-04 09:24 am (UTC)
dramaticsurgeon 4th-Mar-2012 12:26 am (UTC)
I'd mentioned this in another thread, but I suspect no action has been taken simply because the majority of Japanese citizens don't really know how to deal with an intervention-like situation. Supposedly, close family members/friends already tried the direct approach a couple of times only to be harshly rebuked by Nakajima herself.

Also, mental health issues aren't exactly discussed openly there, so her loved ones may just be at a loss as to what they should do. They may know what they *want* to do, especially if Matsushima commented about "beating the psychic silly", but actual intervention and cult deprogramming are serious issues that (at least to my knowledge) don't have readily-available literature or support groups like other countries. Hell, the existence of clinical depression has just barely been acknowledged in Japan in the past decade or so.

For the record, I mentioned cult deprogramming because the psychic seems to have used many of the same methods utilized by cult leaders to weaken the resistance of members, make them paranoid and manipulate their minds.
findmefate 4th-Mar-2012 12:30 am (UTC)
Yes x(

Ty for your words which you used better than I did.

Edited at 2012-03-04 12:34 am (UTC)
kame_94 4th-Mar-2012 12:31 am (UTC)
I give you an A++ aswell
squallina 4th-Mar-2012 04:38 am (UTC)
A+++ from me.

I didn't even realize Japan had come to terms with clinical depression. It's something people around me back home in Australia are still having trouble coming to terms with. Also, a number of people around me back home have it, which can be a bit hard considering that I don't, and my positive outlook on everything doesn't help. :(
rim1789 4th-Mar-2012 09:28 am (UTC)
True, but also...

No action was taken maybe also because this sorts of situation are tricky. I don't know how the law also is Japan about cults but over here, if someone who didn't experience it directly with that same psychic that has taken over Nakajima, you can't engage any legal action. She is considered as an adult and capable one. Nakajima has to sue her, or someone else wo has fallen prey to her before.
izabera 4th-Mar-2012 10:08 am (UTC)
mte, this situation is indeed very similar to brain-washing in a cult.

On a side note, I wish people would cut Matsushima some slack.
She's a 40-year-old woman with a new baby, which must leave her completely exhausted. She's obviously tried to help, and even Nakajima's father couldn't get through to her.
asaphira_sachi 4th-Mar-2012 11:17 am (UTC)
On a side note, I wish people would cut Matsushima some slack.

THIS sfm. And SMH very much at the first comments implying she's not a "true" friend. No seriously. We don't know a lot what's behind the scene. Who's to say she hasn't tried considering them falling apart has gone way back to 2008?

The truth is, there really isn't much Matsushima can do. If jealousy to Matsushima's marital status is partially the reason -which is very much so considering the timing of how this all spiral downward-, then Matsushima's involvement in trying to get through Nakajima would just be fueling the situation.
inachan89 4th-Mar-2012 12:31 pm (UTC)
geekyoldme 4th-Mar-2012 01:00 am (UTC)
I really miss her hosting since she isn't that bad afterall. I really hope she will be given the chance to be back in entertainment industry and back to normal again.
ren_squared 4th-Mar-2012 01:51 am (UTC)
I hope her dad getting into contact with her is true. Even though what seems best is a quick removal here, with how long this is going on I think getting family in slowly will be the best for her mental state in the long run.

And also pretty sure Mezamashi is going to run a thing on her sometime this week cause they were interviewing people on psychics in Shibuya and this just clicked as to WHY
squallina 4th-Mar-2012 04:38 am (UTC)
Poor woman. I really hope she gets the help she needs and soon. ;_;
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