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1:56 pm - 03/05/2012

Ayaman Japan’s Sakurada in relationship with Schadaraparr’s BOSE

Fantasista Sakurada (26), a member of the popular entertainment group Ayaman Japan, is reportedly in a relationship with rapper BOSE (43) of hip-hop group Schadaraparr. This week’s issue of FRIDAY claims that the two are partly living together.

As usual, the magazine provided photographic evidence to back up its claims. In February, BOSE was seen spending the night at Sakurada’s apartment. The next day, BOSE saw Sakurada off as she headed to work, then returned to the apartment using a spare key.

Ayaman Japan’s management agency declined to comment, explaining that the two are both adults and can take care of their own matters.

Ayaman Japan is an all-female group which mainly focuses on providing entertainment at parties in the Roppongi and Nishi-Azabu areas, mainly in the form of singing, dancing, and dirty jokes. The group became widely known after appearing on an episode of “Tunnels no Minasan no Okage Deshita” in 2010. Although the group has more than 100 members, there are only three main members – Ayaman Kantoku(Ayaman Director), Fantasista Sakurada, and Rukitae – who serve as the public face of the group in front of the media.

nova_usagi 5th-Mar-2012 06:24 pm (UTC)
Sheesh, the age gap is a little big being that she`s only in her 20s.

But it`s kind of interesting that Ayaman Japan is such a large group. Didn`t know they were that big.
tomoeicemaiden 5th-Mar-2012 06:48 pm (UTC)
I'm a year younger than her but am in the same exact dating situation.

Age ain't nothin' but a number, baby.(as long as it's legal)
nova_usagi 5th-Mar-2012 09:51 pm (UTC)
That`s really unrealistic. Ideally, as long as things like couple having enough in common, they`re communicating enough, maintaining a level of equality, and have a healthy sex life are there, age shouldn`t matter...but a significant age gap often is part of the reason why those things aren`t happening enough. For example, often the older one in the relationship ends up holding more power over the younger one, being that bother are aware who is older. Of course not always but usually a large age gap causes many relationship problems.

"age gaps of fifteen years or more present a very real psychological dilemma, one of inequality. It will be obvious to those on the outside looking in that the relationship is out of balance and socially inappropriate, but for a couple who has fallen in love they may lack the insight and maturity to foresee the problems ahead." -Does Age Difference Matter in Love?

"When older-man-younger-woman age-gap couples first marry, they generally feel emotionally more or less the same age. Some of these relationships may include aspects of a father-daughter kind of closeness. In many cases though their emotional developmental ages feel well-matched." -Age-Gap Couples in the Twilight Zone

"Those who date older people are fond of saying that they're mature for their age. Is that really such a good thing? Dating someone older forces you to grow up, be mature and act more responsible than you really want. Let's say that your friends want to take off for a weekend camping trip, but your partner would rather spend time in a nice hotel. Or maybe you want to go out dancing on a Friday night, but your partner wants to stay home and rent movies." -Age gap relationships: What to expect when you're involved with a different generation

"Many people often quote that "age doesn't matter" but the truth is, it does. Age makes a big difference when it comes to marriage, I should know because I'm married to someone who is about 10 years older than me (I'm only 24)." -Age gap relationships: What to expect when you're involved with a different generation

Relationship compatibility

And when it comes to marriage and staying with someone, as the Psychology Today article mentions, the Twilight years can become very difficult.
frequency 5th-Mar-2012 10:37 pm (UTC)
you really shouldn't be telling people how to run their relationship.
nova_usagi 6th-Mar-2012 02:52 am (UTC)
Not telling anyone how to run their own personal relationship, just stating the obvious.

I know some couples where there is a 10 year or greater gap. For example, I know a Japanese guy who digs older women and he`s not ashamed of it and that`s why his wife is 10 years older than him. It`s not a secret. Some of couples have okay relationships despite the large age gap; however, that`s a rare thing and in some of those cases, like the specific one I mentioned, the age gap is where part of the attraction lies.
tomoeicemaiden 6th-Mar-2012 03:21 am (UTC)
I'm kind of disgusted by all of these quotes. Also, not all relationships, even one where the partners are compatible are about marriage and raising a family. Please don't judge these relationships, even with science, until you've been in one yourself.
nova_usagi 6th-Mar-2012 03:44 am (UTC)
A person doesn`t need firsthand personal experience to know that large age gaps usually cause unbalanced relationships and other problems. The cited articles mention the same age-gap related problems over and over. It`s not a coincidence.

I know it`s not impossible for relationships with large age gaps to go well and persevere; however, it`s not as common. And if the relationship you`re in is going well, while great, again it doesn`t reflect the general trend with these sort of relationships. But, as long as it`s going well, I hope it continues to do so.

tomoeicemaiden 6th-Mar-2012 03:57 am (UTC)
But really, I know you are trying to show that age isn't just a number, and I get that. And I agree that it depends if the people in question have similar interests, though I'd argue what constitutes a "healthy sex life", because there are some couples, yes, even men, who are asexual but romantic.

About my older partner's "power" bothering me, it really depends on the couple themselves. If the older partner purposely uses his "power" to control his younger partner then that's obviously no good. But I think within any relationship at any age, especially in a heterosexual relationship, there will be one person who is more privileged than the other. To me it is important that my partner understands their privilege, be it racial, class, gender,and or cis/trans, but does their best to not support these systems of oppression. If that's what you mean by "power" you mean privilege then of course I can see how it can be hard for the less privileged partner to have an equal say in the relationship. But until a few years ago I dated people my age who refused to acknowledge their privilege. I know this isn't the case for everybody, but I found a partner who fits my needs(be it physical, material, emotional etc.) and while we certainly don't always agree we still respect each others' values and space. I didn't find out his age until much later and 2 years later we still prefer to spend most of the weekdays with each other over anyone else.

Long comment is long but to add one more thing, in my experience age is an issue when you make it one.

EDIT: I just looked at all the links you sent me and I'm afraid to say these relationships are all told from a white, upper middle class, heterosexual point of view. This does not reflect the variety of experiences of different kinds of people in relationships with a significant age gap in this world. Not that I'm expecting such a comprehensive study that looks at EVERY RELATIONSHIP in the world but I believe other types of race, class, sexual orientation, and ethnicities should be looked at before being able to publish the articles you linked above.

I'm also surprised that 10 years is considered a large age gap, but it seems age is subjective I guess.

Edited at 2012-03-06 04:16 am (UTC)
nova_usagi 6th-Mar-2012 04:16 am (UTC)
Asexuality is exceedingly rare (at probably less than 1 or 2 percent of the population being able to fit into the asexual category). Sex is almost always an important component in marriages, especially for younger couples.

And when I mentioned "power", it was not power so much having to do with privilege, but as in the older one having psychological, emotional, and intellectual superiority or power over the younger one. Privilege abuse concerning relationships with large age-gaps would be the older person continually using his/her age to get away with certain things, winning disputes/fights, making the decisions, having his/her needs tended to first, and/or imposing certain things on his/her younger half...or vice versa.

Again, it`s great that your relationship is going well, but it doesn`t reflect the majority.

nova_usagi 6th-Mar-2012 04:28 am (UTC)
I'm also surprised that 10 years is considered a large age gap, but it seems age is subjective I guess.

No, just that the significance of the age gap lessons with age. For example, what do you think about a 10 year age gap if one person is 12 and the other 22? You`re saying as long as the person is legal, and in some countries that is perfectly legal. How about if one is 22 and the other 32? How about if one is 45 and the other is 55? However the main trouble with older age couples where there is a large age gap is the health related problems of the older one that can burden the younger one and put a great strain on the relationship or ruin it completely. Of course, if you really love someone, ideally you should be able to carry on even with those kinds of daily troubles.
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nova_usagi 6th-Mar-2012 02:48 am (UTC)
That`s really weird. She`s only got maybe 10 years tops before she`ll have to help him take care of himself. Or even worse, maybe she`ll be changing both her husband`s and her kids` diapers in the near future. Really makes me wonder how they met and all of that.

ueda_fangirl 6th-Mar-2012 11:44 pm (UTC)
no wonder why there were many girls in this video.

i think they are part of the ayaman japan group =']

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